Issue with my Mom and weight

Was wondering if anyone has any advice on how to deal with issues with my Mom and her consantly going on about my weight gain. I know i am overweight, probably weigh 220 lbs and am only 5'10 so not a tall guy and have gained at least 20-30 lbs in 12 months, and I know she is doing it because she wants me to be happy and healthy (she is a lovely person and a wonderful mom and doesn't do it to be spiteful ) but it hurts me so much. I live away at college but can get home easily and visit often but each time I do the stares at my belly and constant remarks make me want to disappear. Any time I bring it up about her making me feel bad she just gets hurt which in turn makes me feel guilty. Does anyone have any advice or stuff I can send her to read? I do want to lose weight as I feel awful in myself but its making me not want to visit home which sucks as I love my family and get on well with all of them. Don't want it to get to situation where I need to lose weight to go home.
thanks

Edit

Emailied her Friday and she rang me Sunday night. I could tell she was a still a bit hurt but she was lovely to me and said lots of nice things. She won't bring it up again unless I do and said it wasn't that she was embarrased about it (I sort of thought she might be as I know some of her friends and our family can be very judgemental) just wants me to be healthy. I am relieved with how she took it. thanks for your advice and to everyone who commented, you're lovely people :)

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